What feelings are commonly expressed by an abuser in stage 3 of the cycle of violence?

In stage 3 of the cycle of violence, which is often referred to as the "Honeymoon Phase," the feelings expressed by an abuser predominantly revolve around regret and remorse. This stage typically follows the violent incident and is characterized by a temporary reconciliation period where the abuser may show overly caring behavior, attempts to make amends, and promises to change. This remorseful behavior is often a tactic to regain control and forge a sense of normalcy in the relationship after a violent episode.

The expression of regret and remorse can be compelling for the victim, creating hope for change and often leading them to stay in the relationship despite the previous abuse. It’s important to recognize that this stage is often short-lived and may not indicate genuine change in the abuser's behavior.

Feelings like anger and hostility, indifference and apathy, or joy and excitement are not characterized by this phase of the cycle of violence, as they do not align with the remorseful nature displayed by the abuser after the violent incident.